Question # 39: I am belong to the Pakistani family; in our society there are few cast like (pathan, punjabi and urdu speakers) so in some families they are not allow their children for nikkah to somone who relate to other cast or family but my point of view is that whatever we or thy have family cast first we all are Muslims belongs to Allah SWT
bismi-llahi r-raḥmani r-raḥīm,
Assalamu ‘laikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh,
All praise and thanks are due to Allah (سبحانه و تعالى), and peace and blessings be upon His Messenger (صلى الله عليه و سلم).
First of all, we implore Allah (سبحانه و تعالى) to help us serve His cause and render our work for His sake.
Shorter Answer: Islam does not discriminate between one Muslim and another by any earthly standards, whether it is color, lineage, wealth, country, or language. Rather the only criterion by which people are regarded as superior to others before Allah is taqwa (piety, the consciousness of Allah). Hence, it is permissible to get married to a Pathan, Punjabi, or Urdu speakers with the caveat that the person does not belong to a caste/group/sect, whose belief has deviated from the path of ahl al-sunnah wa’l-jama’ah. Last but not the least; a Muslim sister should remember that a marriage is not valid without a wali (father).
Long Answer: With regard to the discrimination that is mention in the question, Allah says in the Qur’an: “O mankind! We have created you from a male and a female, and made you into nations and tribes, that you may know one another. Verily, the most honorable of you with Allah is that (believer) who has At-Taqwa [i.e. he is one of the Muttaqoon (the pious]” (Soorah al-Hujuraat, 49:13)
The Prophet (صلى الله عليه و سلم) said: “O you who believe, verily your Lord is One, and your father [Adam] is one. There is no superiority of an Arab over a non-Arab or of a non-Arab over an Arab, or of a red man over a black man or of a black man over a red man, except in terms of taqwa (piety). Have I conveyed (the message)?” They said: “The Messenger of Allah (صلى الله عليه و سلم) has conveyed (the message).” (Narrated by Ahmad; classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Ghaayat al-Maraam)
According to another hadith, the Prophet (صلى الله عليه و سلم) said: “Those who boast about their forefathers should desist or they will be less significant before Allah than the beetle that rolls up the dung with its nose. Allah has taken away from you the arrogance of Jaahiliyyah and its pride in forefathers, so a person is either a pious believer or a doomed evildoer. All the people are the children of Adam and Adam was created from dust.” (Narrated by al-Tirmidhi; classed as hasan by al-Albaani in Saheeh Sunan al-Tirmidhi and in Ghaayat al-Maraam)
Hence it should become clear to you that Islam does not discriminate between one Muslim and another by any earthly standards, whether it is color, lineage, wealth, country [or language]. Rather the only criterion by which people are regarded as superior to others before Allah is taqwa (piety, the consciousness of Allah). Indeed, the shari’ah commands the guardian of a woman, if a person comes to propose marriage who is religiously-committed and of good character and attitude, to hasten to arrange the marriage, and to beware of rejecting him and not accepting him, as the Prophet (صلى الله عليه و سلم) said: “If there comes to you one with whose religious commitment and character you are pleased, then marry your daughter [or female relative under your care] to him, for if you do not do that then there will be much tribulation and mischief in the land.” They said, “O Messenger of Allaah, what if there is some other objection?” He said, “If there comes to you one with whose religious commitment and character you are pleased, then marry your daughter [or female relative under your care] to him,” three times. (Narrated by al-Tirmidhi; classed as hasan by al-Albaani in Saheeh Sunan al-Tirmidhi) (Islamqa.info)
Marriage with people of deviated sects is forbidden
However, there are very many sects that claim to belong to Islam but are beyond the pale of Islam and have deviated from the path of ahl al-sunnah wa’l-jama’ah. Examples of the former include the Qadianis (Ahmadis), Ismailis, Huloolis, Raafidis (Shi’ah), and the Bareilawis. So, if the prospective spouse belongs to any such sects that are beyond the pale of Islam, then marriage to such person is haraam (not permissible/forbidden), because they come under the rulings on mushriks because of their apostasy from Islam. (Islamqa.info)
Shaykh al-Islam (Ibn Taymiyah) said in his discussion of the extreme views of the Raafidis (Shi’ah) and of the Nusayris and Ismailis concerning ‘Ali, that all of these kuffaar are worse kaafirs than the Jews and Christians. If one of them does not make an open display of that, then he is one of the munafiqeen (hypocrites) who will be in the lowest level of Hell, and those who do make an open display of that are the worst of the kaafirs in kufr. And he said: it is not permitted to marry their women, because they are apostates and are the worst kind of apostates. (See Mawqif Ahl al-Sunnah wa’l-Jamaa’ah min Ahl al-Ahwaa ‘wa’l-Bida’ by Dr. Ibraaheem al-Raheeli)
Etiquettes of marriage
Abu Huraira (رضي الله عنه) reported Allah’s Messenger (سبحانه و تعالى) as saying: “A woman is sought in marriage for four reasons: wealth, social status, beauty and deen (piety), so seek the one with deen, may you then be successful.” (Reported by al-Bukhari, Muslim and others)
A woman may not independently give herself in marriage. Her wali (guardian) should represent her in doing that. He should take her consent if she is a virgin… Abu Musa al-Ashari, Abdullah bin Abbas, Jabir bin Abdillah and Abu Hurayrah (رضي الله عنه) reported that Allah Messenger (سبحانه و تعالى) said: “A marriage (contract) is not valid without a wali” (Reported by Abu Dawud, at-Tirmidhi and others; classified as sahih by al-Albani). Thus the presence of the wali for the execution of the marriage contract is a condition for its validity. Normally, a woman’s wali is her father. (‘The quest for Love and Mercy – Regulations for Marriage and Wedding in Islam’ by Muhammad Mustafa al-Jibaly)
Allahu A’lam (Allah (سبحانه و تعالى) knows best) and all Perfections belong to Allah, and all mistakes belong to me alone. May Allah (سبحانه و تعالى) forgive me, Ameen.